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‘Watch out! You nearly broad sided that car!' My father yelled at me. 'Can't you do anything right?' Those words hurt worse than blows. I turned my head toward the elderly man in the seat beside me, daring me to challenge him. A lump rose in my throat as I averted my eyes. I wasn't prepared for another battle. 'I saw the car, Dad. Please don't yell at me when I'm driving.' My voice was measured and steady, sounding far calmer than I really felt. Dad glared at me,
then, turned away and settled back. At home, I
What could I do about him? Dad had been a lumberjack
in Washington and Oregon. He had enjoyed being outdoors and had reveled
in pitting his strength against the forces of nature. He had entered
grueling lumberjack competitions
The years marched
on relentlessly. The first time he couldn't lift
Four days after his
sixty-seventh birthday, he had a heart attack.
But something inside
Dad died. His zest for life was gone. He obstinately refused
to follow doctor's orders. Suggestions and
My husband, Dick,
and I asked Dad to come live with us on our small farm. We hoped
the fresh air and rustic atmosphere would help him adjust. Within
a week after he moved in, I regretted the invitation.
The next day, I sat
down with the phone book and methodically called each of the mental health
clinics listed in the Yellow Pages. I explained my problem to each
of the sympathetic voices that answered... in vain. Just when I was
giving up hope, one of the voices suddenly exclaimed, 'I just read something
that might help you! Let me go get the article.' I listened
as she read. The article described a remarkable study done at a nursing
home. All of the patients were
I drove to the animal
shelter that afternoon. After I filled out a questionnaire, a uniformed
officer led me to the kennels. The odor
I pointed to the dog.
'Can you tell me about him?' The officer
'He's a funny one.
Appeared out of nowhere and sat in front of the
As the words sank
in, I turned to the man in horror. 'You mean you
'Ma'am,' he said gently, 'that's our policy. We don't have room for every unclaimed dog.' I looked at the pointer
again. The calm brown eyes awaited my
I drove home with
the dog on the front seat beside me. When I
'Ta-da! Look what I got for you, Dad!' I said excitedly. Dad looked, and then
wrinkled his face in disgust. 'If I had wanted
Anger rose inside me. It squeezed together my throat muscles and pounded into my temples. 'You'd better get
used to him, Dad. He's staying!' Dad ignored me.
We stood glaring at
each other like duelists, when, suddenly, the pointer pulled free from
my grasp. He wobbled toward my dad and sat
Dad's lower jaw trembled
as he stared at the uplifted paw. Con-
It was the beginning
of a warm and intimate friendship. Dad named
Dad and Cheyenne were
inseparable throughout the next three years. Dad's bitterness faded
and he and Cheyenne made many friends. Then, late one night, I was
startled to feel Cheyenne’s cold nose burrowing through our bed covers.
He had never before come into our bedroom at night. I woke Dick,
put on my robe, and ran into my father's room.
Two days later, my
shock and grief deepened when I discovered Cheyenne lying dead beside Dad's
bed. I wrapped his still form in the rag rug he had slept on.
As Dick and I buried him near a favorite fishing
The morning of Dad's
funeral dawned, overcast and dreary. This day looks like the way
I feel, I thought, as I walked down the aisle to
'I've often thanked God for sending that angel,' he said. For me, the past dropped
into place, completing a puzzle that I had
Cheyenne’s unexpected
appearance at the animal shelter… his calm acceptance and complete devotion
to my father… and the proximity of their deaths. And, suddenly, I
understood. I knew that God had
Life is too short for drama & petty things, so laugh hard, love truly, and forgive quickly. Live While You Are Alive. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity. Forgive now those who made you cry. You might not get a second time. Originally published on Louisiana SPCA’s website. |